(((((bchlyn))))) I’m so sorry that you’re having to relive all of this. Surely as young men in their 20s they should realize that the abuse YOU suffered is your own, and you don’t have to share it if you don’t want to. In any event, if they don’t believe you, they can think that you lied to the police in the first place. There are none so blind as those that will not see. The parts of the police report that quote the children specifically should be enough for them.

You can respect their wishes with regard to their abuse if you think that they’re old enough and in a safe enough place to handle it, but I’m with the rest, have T make a copy and black out the information that pertains to you. If your eldest is living with his father, and about to bring a child into the home, and that child is at risk for being abused… Is there a Child Welfare record to go with this? Court proceedings that mandated supervised visits?

There aren’t words to express my sorrow at your situation.