Sunrise, I read that artical and low and behold there is was right in front of me, what I had wrote ...

" I must choose to release my attachment to being the “righteous victim,” even though that stance is so very powerful. "

I know though, as much as I wish for change, it won't just happen like that. As T says, "knowing isn't the same as experiencing"

I wonder if I dont choose situations that engage my anger, in the hope of perhaps fixing the past. Almost like trying to get that anger itched? I know when I feel the anger in my body its like I am going to explode and need to give it to someone else. Perhaps it takes courage to let go the past and the anger? I'm not sure I've got that yet.

Glad it went ok with your husband today.