I think your choice in men is very unfortunate. And sad. There is nothing wrong with wanting true partner. But men you choose are not and will not be true partners. You can’t keep on trying to change these wrong partners into what you want them to be. It’s not happening. What you see is what you get. And what you see is no good. Neither your ex husband nor this ex in question nor current boyfriend will ever be true partners. They are not right men for that. I am sorry but that’s just what it is

I think when you meet new men you need to evaluate if they are quality partners before you get serious or even consider dating them, let alone engage or marry