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Originally Posted by eskielover
Whether social media means anything or not to him, doing what he did showed a total lack of regard for you & your daughter. That lack of regard is definitely a sign of how his mind functions (or lack of function). You probably will never know WHY he really did it.
After living 33 years with my now ex, I never could figure out how his messed up thinking ever worked & I want to put energy into a real relationship, not wasting my time trying to figure out how someone's brain is working & causing an imbalance in my own life. When I sence a level of conflict like that now, I block people like that out of my personal life.
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Well I had blocked him at the time . I thought he had bpd, it turned out he had autism.
I had one therapist that said don’t block, just don’t react.
I think you and I see things fundamentally different and we’ve also had very divergent experience.
I only was married for 5 years. I asked my ex husband to leave before we reached the 6 year mark.
I never lived with my ex fiancé, I never even visited his house. The whole time we were in a relationship he was living in another state and then when I found out he hadn’t filed for divorce after being engaged for 3 years I broke it off. When he finally moved out here 2 years later I had enough and I made him take all his belongings out of my apartment. That devastated him. I had asked him over and over again to show me his divorce papers and he refused so I didn’t see them until yet another year later and that was by “accident”. It literally took him over 6 years to allow me to see divorce papers and by that time he was willfully homeless. I had found him a place to live in my county but he left it citing a mental breakdown when I wouldn’t resume the relationship until I saw the papers .