I hear what you’re saying and I’ll repeat that we brought out the worst in each other. I’m seeing that happen again with the boyfriend, which indicates to me that I need to work on myself . I tend to be attracted to men with control issues which both the boyfriend and the ex fiancé have/had. The boyfriend is even more frustrating then the ex fiancé because the boyfriend is passive while at least the ex fiancé was direct. I’ve been told by all three of the men in my life : ex husband, ex fiancé, boyfriend that I’m verbally abusive, either directly or indirectly . This of course comes after much time of me pleading with them to change their toxic behavior that is detrimental to me . I should really start another thread to sort out my issues as this one is getting messy .