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Jun 11, 2021, 04:11 AM
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I asserted myself with my best friend yesterday. It was time, it was an issue she's been unreasonable about for a while and talking nonsense to others about it and casting their doubt on me.
So i wrote her a long text firmly but diplomatically correcting her and she persisted in it when i saw her IRL but i stood my ground and provided even more facts and another friend who i am chronically at odds with astonishingly TOOK MY SIDE!!!!!
Finally my best friend capitulated!!! After it was over i asked if we were still friends and she just scoffed and said it takes a lot more than a minor disagreement to bother her. So it's nice that she's so sturdy and willing to listen to reason and hopefully she will stop talking smack about me around the building.
It was an issue to do with what is the best email app and since we both do tech support for our neighbors it's important that she be up-to-date on the current state-of-the-art.
It was hard to assert myself like that but i just had it with her giving out bad advice and screwing things up for my neighbors. I felt some sort of responsibility to them to correct her.
It went okay, by the end of the discussion she was saying she saw my point and finally understood my position and understood that i'm trying to save people money with my method and she can't deny the value of that.
Plus, i'm providing them with a more intuitive computer experience which is important because they're mostly seniors and not computer savvy and just an all-around better solution for escaping the ISP monopolies that are currently consolidating to drive up telecommunication prices.
So that has finally been dealt with after several years of her misleading everyone. She's a "Super Computer User" like me but i have a background in computer programming and once you've CREATED software you have a keen eye for the best apps.
I've also have experience with the superior Apple interface whereas she is just an old DOS user and doesn't know things like the difference between a character-cell interface and a true GUI (Graphical User Interface), pronounced 'gooey.'
So that was hard, but i did it and our friendship survived, so it was a good experience for me. The third friend backing me up really sealed the deal, i think. What an astonishing turn of events that was, she and i are always at odds. So maybe there's hope we can mend fences there too!!!
@Scooter9 and all:
What a fantastic photo, thanks for sharing, i live in Ontario too.
@buddha1too and all:
The video was amusing, thanks for sharing.
@Soupe du jour and all:
I understand your frustration with all the red tape. There's not much you can do tho, but keep jumping thru the hoops. It'll all sort itself out soon and you'll be able to forget about it. Just try and strive for equanimity for the sake of your health. Easier said than done, i know. I went thru a whole fiasco with my ID a couple years ago and my bank account was inaccessible and i had to live off my credit card and was so afraid it would be compromised and i would be penniless that i took out thousands in cash advances and hid them around my home. But it all got worked out and the government came thru for me in two weeks, instead of the six they had threatened and it's been smooth sailing ever since. Things will work out eventually!
Hugs to all!
Jane.
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