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Old Jun 12, 2021, 11:36 AM
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Originally Posted by Kelly68 View Post
I've been seeing a man, that I originally met about 7 years ago. At that time I was intrigued by him, there was something about him. We only dated a month and he just stopped responding to me. I kept his email, and he helped me through a bad time last year when I lost my place to live.
He gave me encouragement to get a job, advice, more like mentoring me and keeping me from being too depressed.

I really appreciated that he was willing to model for me (i am a hairstylist), and i couldn't find anyone else. He'd banter with me and made me laugh.
I think that's what I love the most, not many people get me laughing. My dad was dying and I was busy caregiving him, but the little texts I'd look forward to. He lives more than a hour from me, and he made the effort in late October last year to come see my Dad,

For the last 2 months, I've been repeating old behaviours. I'm driving to see him. I told myself that I wouldn't do that again. He's been very clear that this isn't a relationship or that I'm not his girlfriend. He says he doesn't believe in being in love anymore. But i was hoping that might change. He didn't do anything much to earn my respect, so I screwed up that part.

I know i need to let him decide if he wants to see me, and when, but I'm heading that direction today, so I feel like going by his place. But then I feel like a fool chasing after him. He's very smart, he's into politics and I'm not. He's mentioned gf's he's had before and it's always "she was smart as a whip"

I'm not stupid, but why am I having a hard time with just letting him go....He'll be retiring in another country next year, I want to have fun with him, but he doesn't take me out anywhere, I hinted that already It's just "someday".. oh just writing this makes me feel like I'm a fool. I don't need a man, I just want company and covid has made seeing people almost impossible.

Well I texted twice now, forget him. It's always on his terms. It's weird too, never on a weekend. I'll leave this anyways, I typed it all out. I'm getting old and acting too desperate. I've never met anyone like him, but so what. I'll go see my friend and try to have a good day.. I just wish this guy would get out of my head.

I’m so sorry you’re suffering like this. There seems to be a flurry of posts about men who can’t be there for women. You’ll find you’re not alone. It sounds to me like he’s being dishonest and he’s hiding something. I’ve been in an on again off again relationship for 9 years. I’ve been told I had the most raw intelligence of anyone he’s ever met. It’s been over 24 hours since I’ve heard from the man that’s my problem, Thursday at 11 something at night.

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Kelly68, RoxanneToto