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He said he was going to put a bookmark there and we could talk about it next time.

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That is really nice. I think one of the big difference between you and I is that you can actually say..."I want to talk about me."

At the end of my session yesterday my T gave me a sheet of paper with two things written on it. She said here's what I want you to do. Clarifying, only if I want to do it of course I like that when she clarifies that she is only making a suggestion

The one item was something so simple, I couldn't believe the thought I needed her to write it down for me. #1. Ask ___ to take an interest in what you are interested in sometimes. The second item on the paper related to comments he makes that are intended to lay guilt on me. Also a no brainer.

On to today's dialog with H:
I told my H that I went hiking today. He responds sarcastically with, "You are taking this exercise crap way to far, WTF!" Keep in mind that I used to hike all the time when we were dating and before the kids, and I like the outdoors. Hell, I live near some really great trails and I am fit enough to start doing it again. So a little while later I say, "Do you have an interest in anything I do?" His reply is, "You exercise too much." Thinking he didn't hear what I said I repeated the question and followed with ... you know like a few days ago I mentioned a book I started to re-read. Are you interested at all in why I mentioned it to you? He said, "I don't get why you would read something you already read." At this point I dropped the conversation.

The sad part is I've looked at my T's note several times today. Although item #1 was something simple, basically ask for what you want. And I couldn't do it. I show interest in a lot of things he and others do, simply because I know it makes them happy. Yet it never occurred to me to want or expect others to reciprocate. Even now knowing how basic this want is, I still can't seem to ask for it.