well.. i dint mean that turning off the stove was turning off *your* feelings... more like finding healthier ways to address a situation headon without it turning into something that burns you. For myself, i will have anger well up about something... but if i look real close the anger is about moer than what is happening right there in the here and now... by turning the burner off i mean i want to disconnect the two. i want to process the old anger in safe ways, with T hopefully... and direct the appropriate anger here and now where it belongs.. or to whom it belongs. Separating out what feelings belong to what is so very hard... i second guess myself now