Whenever one person is pursuing another, and it’s one-sided, it’s not going to be any good.

I’m sorry he didn’t materialize into a real relationship. He does sound like he has many good qualities, and you really like him. But, he’s made it very clear, he doesn’t want a relationship with you. Yes, he’s honest. IDK if he is hiding another love interest, but he doesn’t want you, so that’s all you need to know to give up on him.

It’s a good idea for you to get ‘very busy’, too. In the past, I had a similar semi-unrequited relationship. When I got busy, he suddenly started pursuing! But, it didn’t go well after that anyway, so I don’t recommend allowing yourself to get sucked in should that happen. The bottom line is, if it was rocky from the start, and was never a mutual, healthy relationship, it’s never going to be smooth. And, when you are truly ‘busy’, you are caring for yourself and freeing yourself to find someone or something else that will be actually good.

“most men usually tune a woman out after a few minutes”— I don’t feel like this has been true IME…but, recently I was going off on a rant with my h and it was obvious he had tuned me out. Is it possible you are being overly talkative with men to the point where you feel they have tuned out?