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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
I would relativised the role other people may play in your life. I mean...the most important is your own self-confidence and enjoying the activities you choose. The other comes within. And much more if you don’t have problems being sociable.
I’m not saying is easy to find people you may feel comfortable with, ok? It will depend on many factors.
For example, my mother is such an easy-going person that she joined a group trip (it was the first trip she enrolled in after my daddy’s passing away, the very first trip) and from then on, she has a group of friends to do all kind of activities and even a partner.
I’m just the opposite. So, it will depend on many factors. But, first, it’s you and your interests. It’s convenient not to begin to build the house by making the roof first.
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My goal is really to stay out of my head and have something to look forward to so I would be able to work early enough during the day because a big problem of mine is not being able to until the evening or even later in the night or worst case until next morning.
And since I lost my IRL "friends" after trauma, that is why I think it would help if I had more good experiences again with people, it would help overwrite the bad experiences.
I will be honest, I don't see how I would rewrite the bad experiences on my own without any external influence from people.
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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
It will depend on what you like to do and be engaged with the most. For example, if you like hiking is a good option because there use to be be lots of groups everywhere.
If you like animals you can offer a hand there and meet like-minded people.
The same with other activities as drama groups, dancing learning, or any kind of learning -a new language-, etc. It will all depend on your likes, your level of energy, the time you have available taking to account the hours you have to dedicate to your job.
P.S.: I know it’s not easy when you feel a low mood. At least, I hope you don’t have social anxiety. I don’t know it. In this case, it would be even more difficult.
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I don't have time now because of work. But that's what I'm trying to change.
I don't have social anxiety, the problem is more the above.