Thanks AAAAA, and you're right, I am very lucky to have so many people who care about me, and I never take it for granted for one second!

Ironically enough, it's always been me who everyone has turned to as "the voice of reason", and I, like you have a tendency to be "too direct". Everyone's initial reactions were quite strong, I think because they were so surprised, frustrated and angry at my husband, and everyone has softened a bit since then. My husband is not a horrible person, just a damaged one, but I know my friends are MY friends, and their concern, first and foremost, is for my wellbeing. And I am so very blessed to have that in my life!

It is because of my wonderful Mom, my fabulous friends, and kind people like you here on the forum, who offer words of support and encouragement, that I am doing so well in what is a very difficult and uncomfortable situation.

Thank you again, I wish you well.