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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
‘People change’ is probably not accurate. One friend who stopped contact with me said that I reminded her of a time that she was not proud of her own behavior. I was not a part of that behavior. I think it was like a part of a 12 step program for her where they lose contact with anyone who was a part of their lives that contributed to addiction. I feel compassion for her if this was solely the case.
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That makes sense but I also don't really understand it on a level lol, but that's me. I understand if someone is unable to really come to terms with their past so they need to remove any reminder of it but it's just sad that supposedly close relationships would need to be cut too for that reason.
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With the other friend, I moved away and we both stopped making the effort to keep in touch. I also think it may have had something to do with my father dying, who maybe she felt like he was a father figure for her as she had no father.
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Yeah with moving that makes sense just fine, unfortunately.
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Whenever I speak to old friends it seems like no one’s changed at all! 
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Yeah I guess it's just that not many relationships are truly durable but they do exist, just have to be able to pick from a variety of relationships to find the lasting ones.
I think I want to be able to predict when it's going to be durable like that but I understand that's hard.... just would like to see it as clearly as possible though, hence this thread