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Location: Hungary
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Jun 14, 2021 at 07:22 PM
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Originally Posted by RDMercer
HAHAHA!
Talked to an old friend about this today.
His take was, you're human. You're carrying a lot for a long time. Of course you're getting short tempered.
Maybe more self care to take the edge off???
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Firstoff. Specifically what burden are you carrying? And why?
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This, I think, has left me emotionally immature. I seek immediate emotional validation and gratification from my wife and other people close to me. If I am slighted, I will speak up pretty quickly. I will point out the hurt and expect an apology. Honestly, my wife is similar in that she doesn't like to apologize. I end up acting like a petty fool, pointing out, and re-pointing out, and repointing out the slight or wrong, and expecting an apology.
The lack of validation makes me feel like I'm crazy. Then I end up saying "I'm not crazy!" Which really makes a person look crazy.
Right now I am posting this because I am trying to not confront my wife about something and this is my coping system for today.
Can anyone coach me on this one?
RDM
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Do you have an example of such slights you expect an apology about? For example, what was the slight you tried to not confront your wife about now?
Specifics help.
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