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Originally Posted by poshgirl
Alive99, you've "hit so many nails on the head"!
For whatever reason, it's easy to just soak everything up like a sponge. Even sponges reach their limits. In my case, the wakening moment can be when you realise that the person saying thank you has an alternate agenda of emotional blackmail. The disappointment that the person who supposedly taught you right from wrong is now advocating an unacceptable resolution to a family problem.
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Glad if I could help with my post. Ohh this sponge analogy is so good too. With me it's a funny thing, I don't notice that I take up stuff like that.....but then the sponge becomes full and then it all has to come out.
I am trying to get more conscious of how that works to avoid that in future.
I also had similar wakening moments like that...realising that there's been emotional blackmail and the like. When it all came out of me, whatever I took in, is when I saw it. I can't even tell you if the chicken or the egg was first. (Sponge spilling out and then me seeing the problems vs seeing the bad that got the sponge full and that then made me spill it)
I'll continue the analogy. I have had to be careful to not let the full sponge spill over everywhere else, even where it doesn't belong. I didn't want to become paranoid or overly cynical or anything.
But yes, emotional blackmail and things like that do exist, too. It's all so complex. Yea sure humans are complex. lol.