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I think one of the big difference between you and I is that you can actually say..."I want to talk about me."

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Well, that was the first time I ever said it. It only took me 19 months to get to that point!

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#1. Ask ___ to take an interest in what you are interested in sometimes.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">You are talking about your H here? Or is she suggesting you go to others--friends & family--to get some of the interaction you need? For a long time in my marriage, my strategy became not to expect so much from my H. I would seek out conversation, companionship, interaction, reciprocity, etc. with others in my life, since he wanted to participate in none of these things. The pain of being so "alone" in the marriage was something I filled by my outside friendships. (Eventually, I became so depressed that I could not maintain these. The years wore me down.)

It's hard to even comment on your conversation with your H. What a butthead. He sounds very angry, perhaps very depressed. You are trying very hard to do your best in very difficult circumstances. To me, it sounds like he is saying to you, "I don't care about you and don't want to be with you anymore." That may not be the message he really wants to send, but it may be the message you end up hearing if it goes on long enough. For your sake, I hope he can somehow pull himself out of this or get professional help.