I think I do actually have a real question....pertaining to the topic, lol. What are the proper boundaries for social support? With family and people who do truly care about me?

I get it that with most friendships, they are loose enough that you can't really ask for anything at all, if you can't have good times with those friends then don't be near them, while not being able to have good times with them. I get that. I lost the IRL friends because I didn't understand that they were only good for that. I was there for them when they were acutely suicidal, when they were being majorly deceived by a guy, when they needed money to finish their college degree, or even to just buy more wholesome food, etc.... Yeah maybe I was there for them too much because that's why I had to quit these relationships when they weren't there for me. (One of them was a toxic relationship, the other one wasn't toxic but wasn't there for me anyway & tried to just do a personal attack on me instead)

But it's whatever. What are the normal boundaries for family / for people who do truly care? What is too much to ask for, "out of the ordinary" when supporting someone with depression&trauma&cPTSD?

Does this question make sense? Is there a way to summarise an answer to it? Are there resources, articles about this, I don't know? I've never seen any.