Dear T,
I didn't feel good about your first email reply. It felt maybe a bit defensive, and you didn't acknowledge my feelings of rejection that I mentioned. I worried that my response was a bit blunt, that you'd either amp up the defensiveness (likely what would have happened, say, 2 years ago) or not reply at all.

But instead, you clarified to let me know that you had been offering me something that you wouldn't usually offer (I misunderstood) and then said a kind word on the abandonment feelings. So I'm glad I sent that email reply to you. Because now I am experiencing your caring and even feel a bit special. Thank you. (And my intention is still to not take you up on that offer--assuming it still stands anyway.)

Love,
LT