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Because I realised I didn't like the idea that family or anyone who truly CARES will EASILY burn out.

I was asking about people who do truly care.

People who do truly care do not EASILY burn out.

I didn't EASILY burn out either, I put in a whole 4 years first. Because I cared.

So yeah, nevermind this topic. I don't want to discuss how easy or how hard it is for people to burn out. I know first hand. So it wasn't what I was asking about at all. I understand you focused on other people in your response, but that's not useful to me because I already overfocus on other people. I don't need to have EVEN MORE empathy focused on other people. I have to learn to focus it on myself.