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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
I was only pointing out an example of an exercise where you get aware of your thoughts that freely appear in your mind for a limited time, in this case, along 5 minutes and you have to set them on a time line. From a remote past to a remote future.
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Interesting exercise. I think I'm always aware of when specifically something happened. So it seems like an easy exercise
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To be honest, the book is pretty useful and go step by step, with practical exercises in order you to take conscious of how much our mind plays sometimes very bad games with us. Indeed, I’m thinking to give it another go. If I again stop it at the same page, never mind, I would like to refresh a little.
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Yeah I agree, the emotions in our mind can play very bad games with us.
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Then, the book propose some other exercises to help you disengage from the thoughts that may appear in your mind by using visualisation as picturing a train passing by and each one of the thoughts appearing are going in a wagon. I don’t need that. I can see how my thoughts freely goes by when focussing on my breathing. I practise Breathing Mindfulness.
And sometimes I focus on the sounds I can hear from the outer. But, mainly I do it focussing on my breath.
I know you are not very fan of mindfulness, I know it for another of your threads. But, it has worked for me in many occasions.
I even think to remember that I wrote a thread here explaining the technique.
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Wow I think you've just explained more here about why you like the breathing exercises. I never understood why people like them or what works for them with that. Where you said "I can see how my thoughts freely goes by when focussing on my breathing". That. I do that by default, not sure why it works differently for me but I do that by default. I assume we are talking of emotional thoughts here though.
Basically what I do with them is I treat them as "working hypotheses". I entertain myself with having the emotional thought and then I put it aside and wait for more information to see how much truth it really has to it. I can have more than one such "working hypothesis" too
(Working hypothesis = "A working hypothesis is a hypothesis that is provisionally accepted as a basis for further research in the hope that a tenable theory will be produced, even if the hypothesis ultimately fails")
It's entertaining for me as long as it's about my own attitudes.
But when it comes to trust in people's attitudes towards me, that's something I'm having a very hard time with.
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As I told you I never lived a deep limit situation that could create a trauma but I’m pretty sensible and let’s say that sometimes I haven’t been treat in the best way. So, I can’t compare myself with a person who suffered a trauma, this is the reason why I can’t tell you much more about how you can heal. Wished I could.
But, I love your attitude about being more open with people and trying to opening doors for them. I’m also in the same point as you.
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Thank you again. I'm trying to keep up this attitude, yes, but then I get like, I don't know, flashbacks and stuff, like I described above, so it's hard