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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
Emotions are substances in the brain. That’s it.
This is the aim of Mindfulness, to disengage of these emotions and thoughts in order to see the whole picture, a more rational view.
You are able to see and understand the other person further more, because of your empathy. You have emotions. Some people (a few) don’t even have them.
You have them, in another way, you haven’t been hurt so deep. But, there’s a middle point in which you can begin to use these emotions as an alley by a balance with your rational mind.
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(Responding to the comment on not having been hurt so deep)
At age 18 I lost my emotions.
They are coming back but it's this mess. Like I described just now.
I don't even see part of the emotions well for now. I'm trying to look at it like, OK here's this picture of puzzles, each emotional thingy being a puzzle piece in it. And I can look at the whole picture and I can see some of the puzzle pieces are foggy, vague. And I can see other pieces are clear and I can feel them fully and as soon as I can feel it fully my rational brain is able to manage it, provided that I've read up on enough psychology to have the knowledge about what the emotion means.
I'm okay with some of the puzzles not being identified and being fuzzy. But since I'm doing all this without any real guidance outside myself, I have to pick up the pieces from everywhere myself, psychology books, articles online, psychology forums, talking with people on forums as well
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The only thing I'm not okay with it is if the fuzzy pieces jump at me suddenly
It also helps if I can actually get an emotional thought that talks to me loud and clear, because then the emotional puzzle is instantly more clear too and not fuzzy anymore. And then I can work on it with the rational brain
The issue with family now has too many fuzzy pieces. Both of my emotions and of their emotions.
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If you give me to choose between a person who is emotional and a person who can’t feel emotions. I choose the first one by far.
The matter is to find a balance so your mind can’t lie you, even when it could try to protect yourself. Because your rational mind is also present.
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I didn't understand about the mind lying to you. Do you mean emotional (biased) thoughts? Or do you mean the mind generating theories about the emotions that don't really amount to more than "working hypotheses"?
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It takes practise to get that.
What your therapist tell you? Or what techniques (s)he is teaching you?
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I don't have a therapist right now. I ran from the last one after a couple of years because I was about to be retraumatised