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Originally Posted by Alive99
Interesting exercise. I think I'm always aware of when specifically something happened. So it seems like an easy exercise 
Yeah I agree, the emotions in our mind can play very bad games with us.
Wow I think you've just explained more here about why you like the breathing exercises. I never understood why people like them or what works for them with that. Where you said "I can see how my thoughts freely goes by when focussing on my breathing". That. I do that by default, not sure why it works differently for me but I do that by default. I assume we are talking of emotional thoughts here though.
Basically what I do with them is I treat them as "working hypotheses". I entertain myself with having the emotional thought and then I put it aside and wait for more information to see how much truth it really has to it. I can have more than one such "working hypothesis" too
(Working hypothesis = "A working hypothesis is a hypothesis that is provisionally accepted as a basis for further research in the hope that a tenable theory will be produced, even if the hypothesis ultimately fails")
It's entertaining for me as long as it's about my own attitudes.
But when it comes to trust in people's attitudes towards me, that's something I'm having a very hard time with.
Thank you again. I'm trying to keep up this attitude, yes, but then I get like, I don't know, flashbacks and stuff, like I described above, so it's hard |
Not sure if I understood you.
It’s not about treating the thoughts (any thoughts without labels) as hypothesis and see which others are gonna come that may give a meaning to the other ones. It’s about letting them passed away. How? Accepting them, giving them a welcome and without judging them or the emotions that they may generate, letting them go by, when they want go. Without you engaging with them. Why? Because you are not your thoughts. And because many of them are there to make noise, only to put yourself in alert when is not necessary.
I’m gonna put you an example; a thought that uses to come to my mind, “you are rare, you are not as other people, you are less than them. Something doesn’t work in yourself” Something similar to this. Ok. I’m trying this thought stops being a belief, so I let this thought be in my mind and I treat it like something that it’s gonna be there and I’m not gonna fight against it. What I get if I don’t fight it, I’m diminishing its power over me. (I know it’s not easy, but it’s the only way I have to not feed it).
There’s another kind of Mindfulness that also add compassion. And it’s very helpful for people who are dealing with a difficult situation and have painful emotions. I also use it.