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Anyway. I have another concern here regarding context. So this list, it's a list for general social support yeah? For people who are like... mildly depressed? Or worse than mildly depressed? Severe depression? cPTSD?
This is relevant for me so thank you if you can give me a context on that.
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At the moment I'm thinking of it as applying generally. These are the types of things (I am imagining) that anyone might want to consider when asking for help.
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It was a background information for this: I have to make a decision whether I really am just going to rely on myself only and not look for any support, but that then means I'd be taking up the "karma" or I don't know what it is, from the "best friend" who added to my trauma and who did somehow learn to not trust anyone and just became really sh*** to everyone expecting them to do everything for her and being angry and hateful if they didn't, she was just unable to have any real relationship anymore, and I do not want to end up there!!
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Right, and you don't have to end up there. You can get support from people without becoming demanding and angry.
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Also if I decide to just be 100% self-reliant and zero support or zero close relationships then it's like.... I was working for years for the opposite goal. Do I just change my goal all of a sudden like that ?? Then what did I work for so hard ??
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I don't think you have to go to zero support. My thought is to be judicious about who you ask, and how often you ask them, by paying attention to the types of things that I brought up.