Quietmind, you don't have to negotiate anything about your life choices. You need money so you need a job, that's the end of it. What is there to negotiate? Frankly, it's none of your partner's business. However, if you don't want a job and you find it convenient to hide behind your partner's attempt to control your decisions, that's a different matter. I say this without judgement and as someone who hates work and seizes upon the slightest chance to not work. Anyway, whether you do paid work or not, I think the important thing is that you are deciding and you are making the right decisions for you.


Also, if you don't do paid work, you are still working in other ways. Therapy itself is work and it's tiring, although of course these kinds of abstract work commitments are not paid. They should be. I would be a millionaire.