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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
I’ve always felt that looks are secondary. I say this because I’ve heard many guys and girls say they have a type.
“Oh she’s just my type”
“ He isn’t my type”
I don’t have a type. I seriously don’t. Over the course of my life I’ve dated men that were completely different as far as looks go. There are features I find sexy for example, I love a good jaw line and hands. Yes hands. There’s something about the shape of a man’s hands that gets me. But beyond those types of things personality trumps all of it. And it’s not just whether somebody is friendly or funny, I value intelligence the ability to debate and conversation.
But lately (over the last few years) it seems like people have been getting very shallow. I don’t really understand it because we all know as you get older your looks change. I’m not saying as you age you get ugly you just change. So if you’re a shallow person and you thought a girl with big bosoms and a big booty was super important . 20 years later maybe in those big booties and big bosoms wont be there or at least not in the way someone wanted.
And it bothers me when people pick other people apart with the idea of being joky or funny or in a group of people thinking that it makes them really funny.
I don’t know if it’s a groupthink sort of thing where a bunch of 20-year-old guys and girls get together and are like “OMG he is so hot!” Followed by “no he’s so not my type he’s so ugly.” I know this happens with groups of guys but I don’t want to stereotype and I’m not a guy so maybe some other guys can shed light on that sort of groupthink experience.
I’m more of a humanist or at least I like to carry empathy on my shoulders. And it’s hard for me to believe that luxe matter as much as they seem to. But then you have apps where you swipe right or left 10 seconds apart from each other so looks have to be an important thing yes? I guess it’s easier for me to have perspective because I’ve been married 25 years. It was love at first sight with my husband and I know I’m very fortunate. I know I’m very lucky because relationships are so hard for so many people. I realize many people don’t have the experience that I have had.
But the idea of people being lonely simply because their “looks “don’t measure up to what society says or what shallow and vapid men or women say pains me.
What do you all think?
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Ok hang on, I’m one of the “beautiful people” and I just told my ex boyfriend who’s also quite handsome tonight that I felt lonely. I hate to say this but there’s a certain kind of problem that comes with being a beautiful person, outer, not inner. And consequently it’s how I got into a relationship with someone who interiorly isn’t right for me: “looks”.
Now I know I could not compete with someone half my age in the looks department because there’s a certain beauty that comes with youth, so I would say it’s harder to be an older “beautiful “ person. I just read an article about salma Hayek and the pressure to stay thin even though the body changes as it ages…