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Originally Posted by BigBubba
Right. They see my confidence before I open my mouth. They see my confidence when I walk past them on the street. They see my confidence when I'm sitting at the bar and staring at the wall when they're 20 feet away. That's some deeper level of BS, no offense.
Let me gain few pounds, ignore my skin care routine for two weeks and wear some random clothes and then we'll see how far my confidence's gonna get me  |
I agree with you, BB. At first sight people notice your looks. However, it is subjective as to what people consider attractive. Then they notice personality. Sometimes, it could be the other way around, but both looks and personality are factors in someone’s attraction to another. Someone may say they haven’t a care about a person’s looks, only their personality to choose as a romantic partner…I say “That’s incredible!”
When I met my college bf, at first glance he was a short, thin, but cute guy dressed in a leather jacket and punk look (early 80’s) who was carrying on a gambling game in the dorm hallway! I was attracted to both looks and personality equally at once. He was edgy, he was outrageous, different from anyone I had previously known, interesting, and cute and sexy. This was all subjective to my opinion.
I agree with the poster who said it depends on what kind of relationship you want. For someone looking only for sex, then physical attraction obviously is most all that is taken into account, I suppose. Maybe if they had a horrid personality, the person wouldn’t even stand them for a one night thing.
SarahSweets- I think you enjoy posting a question about a subject that brings about a lively discussion.
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