the minor teen did not say in their post they are afraid their parent is going to sexually abuse them. they were very clear the therapist suggested this because the parent needs to view the self inflicted wounds.

its a parents job to view a childs boo boo's or scrapes, cuts, breaks, sprains and so forth, then get the child the appropriate medical care.

according to the posters own posts the therapist recommended this because they were hiding their self inflicted wounds.

I have a teen with schizophrenia that self injures. there was a time when she hid her self inflicted wounds and I had to have her disrobe daily to check for wounds, medicate any fresh wounds, bandage the fresh wounds and determine whether any fresh wounds need the care of her medical doctor for the stitches or infections or possible life threatening situations that self injuring can lead to. thats part of being a parent.

my teen ager knows the difference between a parent doing their job and disrobing for sexual gratification. she was fully aware that the doctors and therapists were telling us to do this so that she could get her self inflicted wounds treated and bandaged.

my teen aged daughter learned to be more forthcoming and honest, and learned to tell us when she self injured so that her wounds could be attended to them by my wife and I or her medical doctors.

she also came up with her own ways to show us the self inflicted wounds voluntarily so that disrobing was not needed like wearing shorts and a muscle shirt when coming to us and saying "Moms, something happened, its right here.

My daughter learned to do this the easy way but there was a time when she enjoyed the secrecy and we needed to do our parental jobs of making sure her wounds didnt get into life threatening situations like infections or other things.

as a child I was sexually abused by some town folks. I was placed in foster care where the abusers could not have access to me while my parents and social services prosecuted my abusers. I was at that time a self injurer.

one set of my foster parents got charged with child abuse under the heading of "neglect" because they were aware of the fact that I was a self injurer and did not follow through with social services, the court ruling and my doctors/ therapists recommendation of strip down to view the wounds and make sure whether I needed medical care for my self injuring.

even in the eyes of the law and court system I was in at the time, there was and is a difference between doing a parents job vs sexual abuse.

I was a child of sexual abuse and even then in my mind I never thought or believed being told to disrobe for viewing of wounds was a sexual advance.

back then I was more worried about hiding my wounds then whether the foster parents were going to sexually abuse me for I knew full well the reason behind being told to strip down was for viewing the wounds. I knew sexual abuse and I knew this was not abuse being asked to strip down so that my foster parents could see and bandage my wounds or take me to the doctor.

the original poster was very clear in their post that this was not a sexual abuse situation, their post is very clear their parents were told to check for self injuring since they were hiding their self injuring.

if disrobing is too embarrassing theres ways for that not to happen, stop hiding the wounds, and wear clothing that will expose the fresh wound to the parents for medical care.

Edit to add...

yes the original poster is obligated to see this therapist if the parent who has custody says they have to. just the way it works here in the USA.

The poster is a minor (16 years old) in the care of their parents. as such until they reach the ages of 18-21 they are listed on their parents health insurance. and with what ever treatment providers the insurance plan requires of them / what the parents have selected for their childs PCP (primary care physician), mental health treatment provider and dental provider.

their parents decide who this minor can see for a therapist, medical doctor and so forth based on which treatment providers the parents health insurance plans cover. and if they choose not to use their health insurance parents choose the treatment provider that they the parent can afford to pay out of pocket for.

minors aged 16 and above can tell their parents they dont like that treatment provider but ultimately until a minor becomes an adult, it is the parents decision. they make the minors mental and physical health decisions until they become adults and they are the ones paying the medical bills, the therapy bills and so on.