those are really good points. when austin died, (it was very sudden and unexpected) it was such a shock that i cried a great deal at first - then stuffed it away. I thought i had dealt with it, not realizing it would be a very long process. So instead of dealing with it, I pretty much died, too, for 2 years. We do need to feel our feelings and work to be aware of them. It is far more healing to do that in the present with the grief, than later.

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