I too never received that kind of support from anyone while growing up. I had to learn how to act around people by watching tv shows. I would long to be part of the tv families. Now I know that those were not realistic either but still it was the only thing I had to go on. Luckily for me, even with DID no one wants support from anyone in real life. Two of my littlest ones do want attention and are usually sad or scared but my T has taught me how to take care of their needs. I basically treat them like I would my little siblings or my kids.
I hope things start coming around for you.