Yes Sunrise I was to ask my H this question. It think last year I had totally withdrawn from everyone. Therapy has helped me come out of this depression. I think I am doing a good job of engaging in activities and connecting with other people in my life. When I came out from under my rock, I realized I had a lot of great acquaintances around me just waiting for me to let them closer. I've been slowly doing that. I just have a lot of anxiety navigating these closer relationship.

As for my H, yes I believe he is depressed, paranoid, and has a lot of insecurity issues associated with his 1st marriage. Deep down I think he does care about me. Unfortunately he is so self centered that he has just no idea when he is rude or inconsiderate of others. Then there is ME with all my issues. Not a good mix, at least for me it is not good.