Here I try to reframe them as needed in a positive light.

It is less risky to ask for something:

--within their nonprofessional skill set

--within your regular frequency of asking

--when you are in a pinch

--when you are asking someone who (as far as you know) has time to help

--when you are asking someone who has given you good reason to think that are okay with being asked

--when you are calm, or you know that they will be calm, and okay with you being upset

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What do I mean by a crisis? I guess that I mean when emotions (theirs or yours) are running high. So yes, suicidality is a good example. I tried to include this thought in the last item above.

Comments are welcome

With regard to your mother, can you say more about what she has been doing/proposing lately in regard to listening to/supporting you?