Hi MrsFunky. I too lost a therapist who just 'got me' early in out work together, because she couldn't (not allowed by the charity she worked for) continue with me into long term therapy that we both felt that I needed. I too was devestated. I'm not sure I have any tips or advice, other than this... If things with a new therapist seem difficult at first, like they just don't get it, please keep talking and trying. Going from someone who just seemed to naturally understandd what I was struggling with to someone I had to work at explaining things to, was very hard for me and I nearly gave up at several points. Luckily I stayed in email contact withh my old T, just until the dust had settled, so to speak, for without that I don't know where I would have been. My 'New T' worked as hard as I did and eventually we got there. It has been a long hard road, and one I am still on, but it was worth changing to her and it was worth sticking with it. I wish you well.

Do mourn the loss. Both with your current T and with your new T. It is a grief process, especially if you've never felt like you had anyone, to find someone and then lose them. Be kind to yourself if you can.