Some of you may recall seeing my recent post about possibly having to take care of my MIL if she comes to live at my house. You all gave me great advice on that.
It was discussed at length and my husband agreed to find an independent living facility for her in her hometown so she could stay in a familiar place as she was insisting on getting out of her current house. My husband has been calling around and obtaining information on different places. My MIL was fine with all this.

However, for the past 2 weeks, my MIL has suddenly started behaving very strangely. Now all of a sudden she says she has to leave her house immediately because "it's too dark and cluttered". She also says she has no one to sing with. She also appears to be making up things, once saying someone rattled the handle on her front door. Then she said she can't drive anymore because people were tailgating her cause she was driving too slow (she's been driving like that on the same roads for years and never thought anything of it). So now she refuses to drive anywhere. She claims she fell lots of times in the shower and now won't shower because of it. When she was asked about when she fell and where she was injured, she said she did not know. Yesterday she said her organs were shutting down and she was going to die and wanted us to know she doesn't have much time left. Like, what??!! Your organs don't just shut down over night especially when you've lived over 75 years and been blessed to never have had a single major medical problem your entire life! Also, you don't just up and move to expensive independent living facilities because your house is cluttered! Then she called yesterday to complain that she was afraid when it started to storm outside and no one called her to ask if she was okay. Seriously????

Sorry to sound harsh, but I think she is a selfish person who is acting like a baby. I don't think there is anything wrong with her. She has no known medical problems that are severe, she has many friends at church and neighbors who are very kind and have been helping her do everything. She's in no immediate danger. We have granted her wish to move and will be paying for it which puts a big financial strain on us but we're willing to do it for her. Yet every day the phone rings with more badgering and complaining from her. And all the stuff about death coming I feel is all made up! Let's face it, if she was in serious medical danger, her doctors have our number and would call us. The stress of this on my husband is very worrisome to me. I'd like to give her a verbal shakedown and knock her back into place. She just wants to live somewhere else so she can play patty cake with people all day long and doesn't want to cooperate and act like an adult about it while it is all being worked out. This is a major undertaking and we all have lives and major responsibilities too! I've never seen anyone so selfish. I've tried to be sympathetic, but now I'm just getting angrier by the day!! I'm at a loss as to what this behavior is.