I disengaged from my boyfriend’s drinking and smoking and drugging which then allowed me to disengage from him although I miss the physical closeness as he was very affectionate . We were together a year and he would give me flowers every month. He had previous girlfriends who he could just keep his drug and alcohol use away from and I have my own substance abuse issues so I had to leave the relationship as it triggered a relapse. I’m really trying to live and let live. He told me he has no desire to get sober. I did flee . He lives with his mom which also triggers me and I would fight with him about that. I am free of all that stress now. He was very loving and caring and nurturing.