Thank you @MickeyCheeky

I appreciate your comments. I think you are right--my dad may be easier to approach about things. I've been very deeply sad for the last couple days, but feel a little better now.

And you are right--relationships, even with parents are a 2-way street. I'm trying to have low expectations (to avoid more hurt). But I think you're right--the next contact I will try to speak to just my dad.

Thank you for your kind words!