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Old Jun 23, 2021, 10:51 AM
TishaBuv TishaBuv is offline
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Originally Posted by leomama View Post
I disengaged from my boyfriend’s drinking and smoking and drugging which then allowed me to disengage from him although I miss the physical closeness as he was very affectionate . We were together a year and he would give me flowers every month. He had previous girlfriends who he could just keep his drug and alcohol use away from and I have my own substance abuse issues so I had to leave the relationship as it triggered a relapse. I’m really trying to live and let live. He told me he has no desire to get sober. I did flee . He lives with his mom which also triggers me and I would fight with him about that. I am free of all that stress now. He was very loving and caring and nurturing.
Good move for you in the right direction. Isn’t one of the 12 steps to break ties with people who partake in the addiction? You now know you can’t be with someone who uses or you will fall back in. If you want to find a new relationship, look for someone who can lift you up instead of pull you down.
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