Thanks, Bill.

She and I have both not had a drink in the past 2 days. So she is supportive about it.

Also, to clarify, she was already at that party. The party was already on. She invited me over a little while after I made that snarky comment about giving my number to a hypothetical woman who wanted to "make friends" with me. I have no idea if there is any connection between the two.

My concern is along the lines of the following really interesting article that I found:
The Price of Distrust: Trust, Anxious Attachment, Jealousy, and Partner Abuse

I suspect that once I had to reveal my financial issues, my anxious attachment jealousy started rising. That is my issue. This is not to excuse what she did or did not do, but it does strike me as a plausible explanation of my behavior. I don't like the jealous and nasty (or weepy and insecure) things I said at those times. Also, to be fair to her, financial issues are tough so I can understand if revealing those made her step back and think about our possible future.

If I were more secure about myself, I think (a) I would be less jealous about possibly ambiguous situations or possible romantic rivals, and (2) I would be more assertive about defining the relationship and being willing to let it go if she were not treating me fairly or with respect.

Also, when I get texts, she sometimes jokes "that must be one of your other ladies," so I think I am not the only one who has jealousy/confusion about our relationship....

Thanks again