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Originally Posted by ruby2011
When I worked at Arby’s, a coworker’s mom died in a car accident. She called in the next few days to grieve. Everyone was extremely supportive of her, including me.
When the GM at McDonald’s blew off my every attempt to talk to him, something in me shattered inside. Before I was ever rude to anyone (to protect myself), I cried just like that Arby’s coworker had. People told me to toughen up and then proceeded to look down on me, especially when I couldn’t finish 2 of my shifts bc of my grief.
So why should they care? Idk. Why were they so caring with my Arby’s coworker?
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These managers mean something to you, they represent something for you, that is not a feeling commonly had by other workers. You have a fixation with these managers and this idea of ‘looking up to them’. This point will likely be a focus of therapy once you start talking about it with a professional. People who work almost never feel so deeply for their managers. It’s a work relationship. Maybe they have a fondness, maybe even a friendship, but to be broken over losing their attention is not at all common.
While you felt severely hurt in ‘losing’ your GM, your fellow coworkers could not relate to your feelings because it is so extremely uncommon to be that fixated and it is really unacceptable, inappropriate behavior in the workplace. Your obsessive feelings are what likely caused him to withdraw from you. It was not appropriate for you to be so attached to your manager.