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Old Jun 23, 2021, 09:44 PM
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Originally Posted by lizardlady View Post


Unaluna, could you explain this? I'm guessing you mean an emotional cost, but I don't understand how empathy can cost anyone. To me empathy is "just" part of who I am. I'm struggling to see a cost.

I don't want to derail Ruby's thread. Maybe we need to start a new thread.
Its "expensive" because you have to give attention to the other person. Its my bucket theory. If you are given attention (or empathy or love or are shown patience or whatever), it fills your bucket, then you can give some to someone else. But some people were never even given a bucket to begin with. All i have is this paper bag an its torn.

Anyway, Ruby kinda says her parents didnt fill her bucket much. So where would be a good place to go get refills? Seesaw suggested NAMI. I fill my bucket by reading.
Thanks for this!
TishaBuv