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Old Jun 23, 2021, 10:21 PM
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Originally Posted by ruby2011 View Post
But katie from Arby’s? She looked up to the SAME supervisor I looked up to. With infinitely better results than me.

These managers did a lot more than simply telling me where I did good. A lot more.

With the incident from Arby’s continuing to break me when I first started at McDonald’s AND my legal and insurance issues following car wreck. I didn’t make the first move talking it through with him. He approached me.

Also before my first job, I hated all authority figures, especially teachers.
I think you are conflating normal friendliness to staff and trying to motivate and train staff with actual friendship. You need to lose the phrase "looked up to" because that's confusing you. It's not about looking up to them. It's about your behaviors around them. You stalked the supervisor from Arby's. You have a fixation about the old GM and McDonald's.

I imagine this must be very hard, because you perceive an authority figure being nice to you, and then you seem to become fixated on that, and perhaps imagine a relationship/friendship that really isn't there. It may be very difficult to challenge that thinking, but what you CAN do is really focus on respecting people's boundaries.

Maybe we can help Ruby here by making a list of typical boundaries in work relationships so that she can make sure to follow those as guidelines at work.

Here are a few:
1. Talking publicly to co-workers about your emotional problems to get their support. It's fine to talk to co-workers who are specifically your friends in a non-work setting. But approaching co-workers to give you emotional support is crossing a boundary.

2. ..I need to eat dinner, then I'll think of some more common boundaries to be aware of.
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