EDIT: I'll add this separately because I feel it's important enough. So where I said maybe your husband is just like this. I will say I do not know him at all and so there can be many ways I could imagine how he can't be intimate with you. In some cases it would be simply a different style of intimacy that doesn't speak your love language at all (and he's not able to pick up on this, either, etc etc), and in some cases it's more willful, lack of willingness where he could actually do it.... and that sounds more unhealthy to me on his end. And it's not for me to judge which case it is, but my point is that in both cases it may be that you can't change that situation and accepting it to live with it seems too stressful too because we are just humans and can't sacrifice everything of ourselves for others, and then the only option left is leaving the situation (separation - a very strong version of disengagement, so to speak....). But that's again really just my thoughts and you may think very differently, I'm just concerned because of how stressful it seems for you.