I think another part of the problem, Ruby, is that you likely have some people working there, for example this manager, who are not the epitome of professionalism, meaning they may be have unprofessionally themselves. And due to your disorders, you cannot tell the difference. You just see that the manager tells bad jokes, so you think it's okay, when it's not. You wonder how come you get in trouble when they don't. Well, they probably know they are being inappropriate so they do it when they know they won't get in trouble. You don't know how to discern, so you make inappropriate jokes in front of the wrong people or when it can't be brushed off, and you get in trouble.

This is why you need to simply abide by a set of boundaries and not mimic the behavior of others, because your brain doesn't allow you to discern those social cues.