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Originally Posted by ruby2011
I’ll probably start implementing all the above starting my next shift.
I’m also wondering, give that my current emotional age is no more than 10 years old, would it be acceptable for me to act like a child as long as I’m not disruptive or rude to anyone? Like making naive, innocent comments that adults find so cute?
And out in public, would it be acceptable for me to go to the children’s section of the library and use the bean bag chair to either read or play with my phone? And trick or treat. Or telling Santa what I want for Christmas, without sitting on his lap of course.
I’m emotionally 10 years old only because I’ve been severely emotionally traumatized too many times. I might have been emotionally 20 something at one time, only to have some traumatic events cause me to devolve. Or maybe possibly I developed so slowly that my emotional age never exceeded 10 years old in the first place. Again the result of multiple traumatic events.
If anyone knew my situation, would they be willing to treat me like a cute little child?
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Ruby, no it will not be appropriate for you to behave like a child at work. They expect to be working with an adult; therefore you need to behave as an adult. Adults do not find adults making naive comments to be cute. It does not come off as naive or innocent, precisely because you are not a child.
Regarding being in public: this can be a challenge to navigate. It's probably fine for you to sit on a bean bag chair in the library as long as you are quiet and not disruptive. Trick or treating is a no. Santa Claus is a no (unless it's specifically for adults - I have seen that).
You are no longer a child. I understand wanting to have childhood things back. I grew up with domestic violence and abuse and basically didn't have a childhood, so I often want those things as well. But you are an adult, and to make things simply you should consider that anything that is for children to do is not for you to do.
I am glad you will try to implement those rules at your next shift. I think what works for you, as we've seen by how you respond to talks from your supervisors and changing your behaviors, is clear expectations of what you are supposed to do and how you are supposed to behave. It may even be in your best interest, when you are confused, to ask your supervisor to clarify what the expectation is in simple terms so you can do better.