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Originally Posted by ruby2011
Nothing in particular. The day he first pushed me away he already been gone for 6 weeks. Then he came to borrow stuff and I found out he changed. It’s very likely that he heard from my coworkers how much I really missed him. I never stopped talking about it. I even said he took a part of me with him. That was all BEFORE he changed.
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That makes sense that it could be that others told him about all that. It could've been insensitive gossip even. From people who felt irritated or annoyed about hearing about your personal emotional issues. People can do this sometimes, unfortunately.
In those 6 weeks when he was gone but did not yet do the first action that made you feel he was pushing you away or avoiding you, do I interpret this right that for 6 weeks he didn't at all show up at the workplace? And before that the last time you saw him was when he left the workplace and got transferred? And if that's true, then was his behaviour still his usual behaviour towards you, i.e. not distant at all yet? No change yet?
And yes, it is normal to feel like people "take a part" of us when a close relationship ends. That is part of the recovery process, to regain that "lost part" and finding ourselves again.