I agree. Try to look at what is right more than what is wrong. Try to give something negative the benefit of the doubt by coming up with alternate reasons for why it seemed so negative, but possibly was not so negative for some other unknown reason.

I’ve been using the radical acceptance technique. It helped me to not get too upset like I used to. The flood of negative thoughts took me down before. It felt natural to let myself get into this downward spiral of thoughts, which sank me into depression. Honestly, it took this book to tell me to focus on something else and move on. Had I been of this new mindset when I suffered two traumatic episodes which led to fallouts with family, my sufferingcould have been avoided. (But only my suffering, their callous behavior still would have been).

I think our perception of seeing the positives vs. the negatives, in general, also may have to do with our moods to begin with. Sometimes, I get frustrated at my house when I see all the things that need repair. Then sometimes, I see the things at my house that make me happy and I get a feeling of well being. This must be a result of a bad or good baseline mood that I am in that I am not even aware of.