As I see it, nobody who needs help, care and healing has in any way to apologize for that or feel ashamed for that.

It is not a question of moral reasoning or evaluating at all.
A victim of trauma or injury is not to be blamed for the damage done. This cannot enough be emphasized!

And nobody in need of help and treatment should feel guilty for asking for help.

The comparison between different degrees of damage is in my view cynical and inhuman and violating human dignity. This kind of thinking should be strictly disapproved and rejected, especially in public or political debates, but no less in one's own thinking.

It is a very saddening fact that many victims think bad of themselves and seem to have lost most of their self-esteem and self-respect. There is absolutely no reason to do so! And, not to forget, that doesn't help at all - to the contrary, it is like going over to the side from where destruction and damage came.

I think it is important to stand up and say no to that. To claim one's position and stand. This is not selfish! It is okay to defeat oneself - and self-defense seems necessary, as long as recovery is not complete and vulnerability still lasts.

Maybe these thoughts will not bring much comfort, because there is a gap between rational insight and emotional reactions. But maybe after a while a change in thinking changes the course of emotions.

Wishing well,
bluna