It looks like you have a husband you can cleave to. I would focus more on that relationship then the one with your parents, especially since you are married .

There are programs of recovery for people who come from dysfunctional families . There are also therapies . Recovery from complex/relational trauma (family of origin) takes a long time and a lot of work. It helps to look at ones expectations of their parents . If they are narcissists then that is what one needs to be expect. Does this make sense?