I like a lot how you are being able to look at yourself and see what may be going on inside you to explain your reactions. It will make you wiser and more powerful. It means so much for your well-being. For yourself.
From this position you can face to whatever. You will know the answer. Take you time.

I know this is not what you want to hear. I’m not saying anything you need to hear now.
The thing is that I think people’s behaviours are not so easy to explain and only time can tell you what this woman feels for you.
You already made things clear with her. Give her a prudencial time and make then your own choice.