And I really need help.

Does anyone know what to do about a sibling who is giving the silent treatment? He also avoids me when I come over to my parents where I live. I have not seen him in over 2 months. I have to announce my presence 20 min before I come over so he can either leave or be in his room. Over 2 months ago we had a fight. I sincerely apologized for my part in it. But I can't deal with this. It feels controlling, punishing, and my mother helps him - he wants me to tell her when I'm coming over so she can tell him. it really hurts. I am hesitant to talk to him. I'm pretty ready to say goodbye to our relationship. It breaks my heart. Because I'm saying goodbye to my mother too. It really hurts.

I'm also really depressed. I've got my own **** happening in my life as well.

how can I cope with this?