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Originally Posted by ruby2011
Ok I understand. I tarnished his name bc I made it sound like I have a romantic relationship with him. Not so much bc I implied he did something bad? Did I paraphrase correctly? Either way, I don’t like the sound of it. I don’t want to tarnish his name I really don’t.
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You make it sound like either at different times. Just stop saying anything about him hurting you.
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1. Bingo. He don’t want to engage in a conversation. I know he’s like that every time he’s here and I’ll need to learn to accept it.
2. Both M and my current GM, when I asked them, said they’re pretty sure former GM will talk to me next time he’s here. M added that I need to make the first move, talk to him, and say hi to him and he’ll answer. Is that recommended? Or would it not be in my best interest?
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I would recommend you do not seek him out to say hello. If he happens to be in the same room, you could acknowledge him by saying "hi" only, which would be polite. Otherwise you need to leave him alone.
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3. A department manager Homer asked M why he told me that. Basically implying why M is falsely getting my hopes up. Cuz last time Alex (a 19 year old chick and a shift manager) told me GM wasn’t trying to ignore me, and a week later, GM came in and was just as distant towards me as always.
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He is WORKING. He came there to pick up stuff. He does not have a personal relationship with you. He was not distant, because he was never closer. That's in your imagination. Do you get that?
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4. I don’t really like anyone I work with honestly. I’m jealous that GM is friendlier towards them. I could live with that. But I hate those who has the least patience with me and that would be the manager trainee. A girl I got along with from her age of 16 until 18. Then when I started leaving early bc GM hurt my feelings she slowly stops associating with me. It escalated to her getting snappy with me. And as of a week ago, stops even saying hi to me.
Her sidekick Alex (the one who said GM didn’t ignore me) also behaves the same way towards me but in a much lesser degree.
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Does it ever occur to you that the trainee manager became trainee about the time you started having your meltdowns because the GM left, and that it has nothing to do with looking down on you but that she has got to step up as a trainee and she can't be giving leeway to an insubordinate employee (YOU). She didn't stop associating with you bc of the GM but because she is now a manager and has to LEAD and that often means less fraternizing with supervisees like you.
At this point they are likely snappy with you because they are fed up with your behavior. If you start doing your job and stop giving excuses for why you can't do simple tasks and stop blaming everything on your feelings for the old GM, they will likely start to appreciate your work ethic again and not be so snappy with you. It's hard to be pleasant to an employee who is performing poorly and making your job hard by not doing theirs, which is what you are doing.
Just stop with the excuses. Do your job. Listen to your managers, trainees included. Stop talking about the old GM to anyone at work, period.